Updated: Dec 4, 2021
Love, that supernatural bond that rest itself here on Earth for the benefit of oneself and others. Many may seek love, but it starts within. Honestly, you have to accept yourself and love yourself, before you can accept and love someone else. How? Through grace. Let me tell you this, if you don't love yourself, chances are you don't believe others love you either. That's why establishing a relationship with God is so important. It's your foundation to loving yourself. When you've accepted that He loves you, flaws and all, you can begin that authentic self-love and eventually begin loving others and allowing others to love you.
I'm sure you've heard the saying "You have to accept a thing before you can change a thing." Well, that also applies to YOU. If you want to see change, you have to start with yourself. If you want that love to come into your life, start loving yourself. What you put out is what you'll receive. For the longest, I would always say, "I need someone to love". Meanwhile, I didn't value and take care of myself. I substituted what I really liked and settled with less than just to pass me by. I wasn't loving me. I wasn't choosing ME.
One day I just decided, I can't do this anymore!
I was so uncomfortable with how things were going with my living situation and lifestyle that I just done it. I just made the change. As though I just flipped a switch and began a new day.
What experience do you have, Tierra? Well, I come from a broken home without mother or father present for a time. I've experienced feelings of abandonment, insecurity, loneliness, and guilt. How did/do I love myself? Well, listening to my own advice, I had to come to the realization that I have to love myself even when others don't show love. When lonely, I utilized those that were/are present in my life. When I overcame the hurt, I begin to establish relationships with those that cause the pain. Am I still working on them? Absolutely! To this day effort is still being made but it's more beautiful than it's ever been, including the relationship with my parents. Did it take time? Of course! This wasn't, and still isn't, a one day, one week, or one year process. We've established where we are over the course of years. Now, that was at MY pace. Find your pace and roll with it. Don't run because you see others relationships are better. Stay your course and you'll be glad you did. You'll enjoy the moments a lot better.